Divorce, like marriage, is complicated. Knowing when it is time to divorce can be just as challenging as knowing who the right person is to marry. But there are signs.
Abuse
Warning sign number one is abuse. If you are experiencing emotional, psychological or physical abuse, you need to get out of the marriage as fast as you safely can.
You can work with your California divorce attorney on a safe exit strategy.
Dealbreakers
If you both are on different life paths, you may not be right for each other.
For example, if you want kids, and your wife does not, it is very unlikely either of you will ever change your minds.
Especially after years or decades together, if neither one of you has changed your mind, it is better to depart ways now.
This same feeling could be about where you want to live or anything else that is important to you or your spouse.
Significant distress
If your marriage is causing negative impacts to your health, both mental and physical, it may be time to part ways.
This does not mean that your spouse is not a good person, or even that you do not still have love for your spouse, but rather that the life that you have built together is so toxic that it is making you sick.
If that is the case, divorce may make sense, though, you may benefit from counseling, which may solve that toxicity.
No improvement
Perhaps, you have gone through counseling, and there you have put in the work, but nothing is changing. That may be a sign that it is time to divorce.
After all, as the old saying goes, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.”
The takeaway
What our readers should take away from this discussion is that being unhappy with your marriage is not a permanent state of being. You can move toward happiness, even if that does mean getting a divorce.